The goal of Things

This year we have set some lofty goals for ourselves and I plan to keep them. While I am not perfect at keeping my goals, I do try really hard and have devised a plan that helps me keep on track. I am going to be kind enough to share it with you today.

Plan

At the start of the year my husband and I sat down and wrote out all our goals for the year. It doesn’t have to be the start of the year to do this, we have started at many different times of the year. The whole point is that you sit down, I suggest with a paper and pen (you can go back later and type them) in hand and write out what you what achieve in all areas of your life (Financial, personal, work, family, travel, you want to do it write it down). The key to sticking with your goals is to have a plan for it. The plan needs to include: What, when, how and why

The What

What is it you want to achieve? Write it out and be specific. If it’s a financial goal then look up the numbers you need for it. If it’s fitness, how long do you want to run or how much to lift, ect?

The When

Give yourself a reasonable time frame to do this in but be lenient on this date.

The How

This is when you get to be more specific on how you are going to set yourself up to achieve this goal. Save $x amount per check, look up a training plan and work it in to your life.

The Why

This is the most important part why is this so important to you? Why are you working towards this? You want to be debt free? You want to run your first race? Whatever it is, if you know the reason you are doing it you will be much more likely to reach your goal.

Do this for each of your goals so you know why each are important to you.

Ok so now you have a long list of goals with what, when, how and why, now what? Get started on working through them. Sit down often to go through your bills, start your work out plan. Then sit down once a month and check in with your goal list and adjust as needed to be sure you are making progress toward all goals.

The last Sunday of every month my husband and I sit down with our goals look at them a talk about how we did that last month working towards them. This part is hard and you have to be honest with yourself and remember why you set these goals and why they are more important to you then other habits.

I wanted to give a quick example of one of our goals this year to help you guys understand better

We sat down at the beginning of January and decided that this is the year we are going to get out of debt.

Our “what” was that we wanted to pay off all our debts except our home. So we got specific and added up all our debts.

Our “when” for this goal is going to be in March of this year. We gave ourselves a reasonable time frame for our amount of debt vs. income.

Our “how” for this is staying in our budgets so any extra money can go to debt, but also using tax refund money and bonus money toward debt.

Lastly our “why” is that we no longer want to be paying interest or living off of credit cards. We want to have to financial freedom to pay for what we want and live within our means.

Sticking to the Plan

Then at the end of the month we will sit down with this and all our other goals. I will talk about what I did to help us along with this goal, such as staying in my budget by buying groceries on sale and only what we needed, not online shopping and successfully planning a spending freeze to save us extra money. Then I will say if I could have done more to help with this goal. However this month I feel like I did well with this goal and could not have improved much. Then it will be Stephen’s turn to say what he did well and what he could improve on next month. Then if there are places that can use improvement you adjust and find a way to do better in the next month. For instance I had a bad week with my goal of posting a blog Tuesdays and a Youtube video on Thursdays so I need to readjust that next month to have a better planned time to write, film and edit.

 

I hope this helps someone who has been struggling with keeping goals. It’s a long process but it really helps keep you on track with what’s important in your life.

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Procrastination and Life.

Am I the only person that didn’t realize they were a procrastinator and or a quitter until they were a grown adult? I’d like to say all through school I didn’t have this problem but the truth is I just didn’t realize I was doing it. A lot of nights I think about my day and why I didn’t get more done only to realize I’m constantly putting things off until I talk myself out of actually doing it. It’s Not because I’m just dreading doing it. Mostly because I’m lazy or just not quite sure how to do something so I’ll put it off until the last minute only to finally do it and it not even be that bad.

Here is a list of things I did today instead of typing this post: dishes twice, starting two loads of laundry, making cookie batter, hours later cooking said batter, coloring My Little Pony pictures, vacuuming my entire second floor, popping zits, sweeping my kitchen, making a list of post ideas, making my bed, making all three of my kids beds and don’t even get me started with Instagram.

I’m giving myself a due date of Tuesday for blog posts. It’s Tuesday at 8 pm and here I am finally sitting down to write it. I literally had a week to sit down and just type but do you know why I subconsciously didn’t? Because I hate writing and typing. I have no confidence in my writing skills. I often will type out a comment on social media only to erase it in fear that I’m somehow writing or spelling something wrong. I’d rather not write something at all then be wrong. So why then are you starting a blog Kandice?

Well I want to work on the areas of myself that I feel lacking so I can be a well-rounded person. A little challenge per say. Stepping out of my comfort zone and making myself do things that scare me. Just so you know, right now in my mind I’m trying to justify stopping this and folding laundry instead. Like, I have a strong urge right now to fold 4 loads for laundry, no one wants to do that. But it seems infinitely easier than trying to write a short simple post.

So with that, I am going to continue to find ways to scare myself until I’m more comfortable with writing and being in front of a camera. At some point it’s got to get easier, right?

I was going to say sorry, this post (or really entire blog) has no organization or focus but I’m also working on unapologetically being me. So yes I have no idea where this is going and it’s something I’m working on. 🙂

A more detailed intro into our lives:

 
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As I said I’m Kandice. I’m a stay at home mom. I love having a good work out a few times a week, getting lost in a good book every now and then, day dreaming of our next Disneyland trip (including drooling over vintage Disneyland pics), reading to my kids and snuggling on the couch with my husband watching something on Netflix. I like trying new recipes and experimenting in the kitchen. It doesn’t always go well but I try.

 

 

The husband, his name is Stephen, he is pretty amazing. He wed4has known from the start my dream job is to be a trophy wife and has worked hard every day to make that a reality for me. In all honesty we decided as a family I would stay home with the kids and he would do whatever it took for that to happen. He now works in IT Cyber Security. It’s a career he loves and can fill his never ending brain capacity with new info. He is a total nerd that spends all his free time playing video games and choosing what movie we are going to see for our next date night.

 

 

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The daughter. It’s Jessa, she’s five and thinks the world does what she wants. She loves to push the limits and explore life. If arguing was a sport she would win. This last year she started Kindergarten and has found a love of learning. She is always up for a good challenge, it’s the only way I can get her to clean.  She also started sports this year and it has been quite interesting to watch her learn new skills.

 

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Cormick is the average middle child. Quiet, entertains himself really well and does things at his own pace. I kid you not I can give him a 50 piece puzzle and he will finish it with very little help, he’s only three. He is finding his voice still (lives at his own pace) and is quite the comedian. If someone is screaming super high pitched it’s him.

 

wed7The baby of the family. If I ever thought my older kids were naughty, I was wrong. Luther lives on the edge, life is not fast enough for him. His emotions are huge! When Luther is mad the world knows it. On the other hand when Luther is happy the sun shines a little brighter. He is a total boy, super heroes yep, Star Wars yep, swords, dinosaurs, and cars, yep, yep and yep.

 

That’s our little family all wrapped up with a bow.

Hope you’re enjoying our latest content. If you missed it last week we posted our top five movies of 2016 over on Youtube. This Thursday we are bringing you a haul of all the books we got for Christmas. I’m excited because it happened to be quite a few good ones.

 

The start of Anytime Harrison

Almost eight years ago I graduated high school from a small town and as cliché as it sounds I was ready to leave the place behind. I packed up most my possessions in my rusted Oldsmobile and hit the road. I started at Boise State University the fall after I graduated. I’m still not sure why I chose to pack up everything and move two hours away but I took the chance. In my first semester I took a bunch of core credits including Communications 101. The class that would slate my future. Not because I learned a bunch, but because there was this boy. This boy that I was so intrigued by, I even came to class early so I could steal someone else’s seat so I could sit closer to him. He magically kept popping up too, waiting after class to ask how my test went, just randomly at the bottom of the stairs reading a paper, and he started coming to class early too. After several dates, trips back home, moving in together, failing out of college and getting engaged I was desperate to move back home and start a family with this man. We got married two years to the day of our first date and within the month we were pregnant with our first little bundle of joy. A little over two years later we were having our second. Fast forward a very short year later and we had our third.

Within these few short years I fell so hard in love with my family and every aspect of them. Most my thoughts went to the four of them and how to make our lives better that I completely forgot who I was. I was living for my family and never took anytime for myself. I knew I was doing this and several times tried out things to help me feel like I was accomplishing more than just dishes and diapers but always failed at it. Until this last summer.

I signed up to run a half marathon. I knew it would be a hard thing to accomplish but I promised myself I would do anything I could for 16 weeks to accomplish this goal. It set a fire in me I didn’t know existed, I stuck to something hard for 16 weeks and I was so happy and proud of myself. I did it every day for sixteen weeks and I didn’t just get a shirt and medal for finishing a half marathon. I proved to myself that I was capable of accomplishing hard things and I now know what it feels like to do something for myself and really be happy. With that said I am determined to give my new project (Anytime Harrison) at least six months of my time. Six months to really accomplish something. I want to learn video editing software and improve my writing skills while sharing my life. So please stick around, read a post, watch a video and if you like something share it with a friend. I’m hoping to post one video and one post to my website each week and may have more fun stuff in the future.

Be on the look for our latest video coming out later this week: Our Top 5 Favorite Movies of 2016. It’s our first video and sure to be embarrassing, but you have to start some where.